How Did I Get Here?
Do you ever stop and ask yourself, “How did I get here.†I’m not talking about those eerie moments when you are stopped at a traffic light and realize that you have been driving without paying attention for several miles. I mean, in life in general. Your job, your family, where you live, the people you spend time with. How did I get here?
I have lived in South Africa – SOUTH AFRICA – for over three years.� Weird! And while there are all the obvious and recent developments in my life that have brought me here, there are a lot of other things, little things, in my past that I think are also part of the journey to where I am now.
Things like
- Watching the movie “Zulu†as a child. Random, I know, but it left a lasting impression on me of the Zulus and the British in South Africa. Why?
- Attending the only black high school in Fresno. Add to that my Rastafarian phase, and I have a whole lot more black in my growing up years than most white boys I know. Not that I am claiming to have had any sort of “black experience,†but I do have a great appreciation for the richness of the black American culture.
- In my senior year, for reasons more complex than I can explain here, I chose to fail some sort of state-mandated essay exam. I don’t even remember what it was for. I just remember that I wrote the words “Free South Africa†over and over, on every line of the book. BTW, I got in trouble for this.
- Watching Nelson Mandela walk out of prison as a teenager in 1990 and crying. Going to Rwanda in 1995 for three months. This was life-changing, and I think our trek back to Africa was inevitable from that day.
- And am I the only person who remembers the song, “Ain’t Gonna’ Play Sun City?†A protest song by a collection of musicians boycotting the fancy-schmancy white resort in SA by the same name.
Coincidences? I think not. And there are lots more. When I think of where I am now, all these small things gain significance in the timeline of my past.
So, question for you: How did you get to where you are? Look at now, and use that as a lens to peer back over your life. I’ll bet some things will jump out that you never really noticed before. Would love to hear what some of those are…

